When You Don't Have Anything To Say

Late last week I noticed that I hadn’t written a blog all week. Although I was particularly busy, I thought to myself “I don’t have anything to say, either.”
What do you say when you don’t have anything to say?
Have you ever been there? Has someone asked you a question that you didn’t know the answer to? Anybody ever solicited advice that you didn’t really have an informed perspective on?
I’ve been there. I’m there a lot.
I’m not really a fan of making up an answer, offering advice on something you know nothing about, or just simply blabbering a bunch of bull.
Why do we always think we have to know the answer?
When I first started following Jesus I had a lot of questions. I asked them. I asked the people who I thought might know the answers. I asked my Youth Pastor, some of my friend’s parents, and my friends who loved Jesus.
Sometimes they were so excited that I asked, they tried to hide the fact they didn’t know the answer and made stuff up. Sometimes they just shared an answer they had heard offered before. The majority of the time they offered an answer.
My Youth Pastor once told me: “Don’t be afraid of your questions. Ask them. If I don’t know the answer, I’ll be honest with you. Just because I don’t know the answer doesn’t mean there’s not an answer.”
What?
What kind of answer to a question is “I don’t know, but there’s an answer somewhere.”
A pretty good one.
The tension of our questions causes us to feel the immediate need to answers, but there are times we don’t have anything to say.
When you don’t have anything to say … just don’t say anything.
 
Here’s some practical advice on giving advice:

  • Don’t always feel that YOU have to answer every question. There are lots of voices out there, and trusting Jesus means trusting that HIS voice can answer all of our questions.
  • When someone asks you about something you know nothing about, be willing to admit that you don’t know. Then you could possibly point them in the direction of someone who does.
  • If you’re not a bible expert (and most of us aren’t), don’t pretend to be. At the same time, be willing to share what you DO know without faking what you DON’T know.
  • Silence is remarkably underrated. Don’t be afraid to let a question sit without an answer, especially when there is no answer.

 
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