A New Respect For Stay-At-Home Moms
I love Peyton Manning so much I took him in the first round of my fantasy football draft this year, knowing he was hurt. He hasn’t and probably won’t play this year.
They call Peyton a “field general” as he plays quarterback for the NFL’s Indianapolis Colts. He’s out there in the middle of everything, helping his people get where they need to be, and just generally getting it done.
This past week my wife returned to work from maternity leave. I knew it would be difficult for her, so I planned on not taking any time up front after Adahlae was born and staying at home with the baby during this time. This way my wife could know Adahlae was in good hands for the first few weeks of her return, which could possibly ease the transition.
I’ve never spent a whole lot of time taking care of infants before. By “a whole lot of time” I mean absolutely zero. Needless to say, this whole week was a new experience.
I still woke up every morning (before Adahlae), took a shower, and got dressed for the day. I still made my coffee (which I normally have at the office). I still checked my email daily and took care of my regular duties.
Until you’ve done it, you just don’t realize how moment-to-moment taking care of a child all day long is.
If you’re doing it right, it’s pretty hard work!
I have to admit: it could be a lot easier than I made it. You could just feed your child, change their diapers, and put them down for naps. Maybe you’d have to neglect them when they cry or laugh, but then you could watch a lot of television and maybe take some long naps yourself.
I figured if I was going to do it, I was going to do it right.
Endeavoring to do all that a good stay-at-home mom would do, this week I washed the clothes, cleaned the dishes, vacuumed the floors, took out the trash, and cleaned the house. I ran the errands we needed and got some stuff from the store we needed to grab. I took Adahlae for walks and helped her learn how to eat from the bottle a bit better.
I worked it. Hard.
A good wife & mother is a “field general” for their family. It’s one thing to coach from the sidelines. It’s a totally different thing to make it happen on the field.
That’s what is happening in the life of a wife & mother. They’re making it happen.
Proverbs 14:1 says “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
I think it’s often understated how much the role of a wife & mother contributes to the climate of the home. It takes an awful lot of effort, energy, and intentionality to be a good wife and mother, but the scriptures teach us that she’s building something.
A good wife & mother is building a family and we know that what is build well lasts (ref. Luke 6:46-49).
I would like to thank my wife for being a great “field general” and to all the other ladies out there endeavoring to build their homes right.
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