While fear certainly keeps us from jumping off of skyscrapers or putting our hand on a hot stove, fear makes a lousy motivator. Fear will prevent you from doing things you should and cause you to do something you shouldn’t.
More often than not, we’re fighting to be right. We think our perspectives are clearly right, and we want the other person to cave and surrender to our rightness. What if what you’re fighting for is totally wrong? What if while you’re fighting to be right, you’re going about it all wrong?
We don’t have a lot of forced conversations that come from different perspectives. Most of us engage in conversation that is comfortable and stays pretty much in the field of our point-of-view. We’re not creatures that generally seek out a challenge. But… we need to be challenged.
It is, though, impossible to predict, from the sidelines, how much work parenting will be. You can’t simulate how the responsibility of leading a kid all day, every day affects you, your body, and your mind. It’s absolutely relentless.
One of the most subtle and, arguably, significant attacks we undergo is the over-inflation of our sense of worth and value. It’s simply pride. Pride will always make “me” more important than “we.”
I can’t count the times I’ve asked my kids about the decisions they’re making. We want our children to grow up making wise choices. We help them learn to understand danger and consequences. While we ask our kids to make better choices, how many times do we need someone to ask us to make better decisions?
We teach our kids that it’s essential to be kind to strangers, respectful to their teachers, and lots of other useful things. We also show them, rightly so, that they are ultimately responsible for being obedient to their parents. They’ll get a new teacher next year, strangers will pass in a few seconds, but they’re stuck under the authority of their parents. In essence, we’re teaching our kids that there is a loyalty that matters more.
With all the potential struggles involved in navigating social media, I still believe it’s a viable platform to connect and communicate with the appropriate guidelines. Let me share with you a few simple ideas that can help us do better…
Sometimes the fake news is what we read. Sometimes the fake news is what we think when we read it. Even more often, fake news is the story we tell ourselves.
How do you really make a difference I’ll make this pretty simple: look to Jesus. Jesus saw you in a mess. He left the comforts of heaven. Released His rightful claim to equality with the Father and came to earth as a human, which He designed and created. He was the way out of our mess, but that would require the willful sacrifice of His own life. And… That’s just what He did. He looked at the people and the problem and made Himself the sacrifice to provide a solution.
Making a difference will always look like Jesus.
We need to maintain a critical eye over our own thoughts, attitudes, words, and actions. How often does that critical eye turn outward and become a critical heart? When our hearts cross that line, we become judge, and when you’re the judge you can no longer be a witness.
We should rightly teach our kids to value and appreciate all other kids, regardless of their color, ethnicity, home life, affluence, or popularity. As a parent, I want my kid to sit next to the kid that has no friends, to play with the kid that’s alone, to have friends that look different, and to look for the value that everyone comes to the table with. Why is it, then, that if take a look at our own, personal community that we’ll find almost everyone looks like us, acts like us, believes like us, and shares our views?